Shefali Jariwala on her adoption: It took time for Parag and me to be on the same page
The Bigg Boss 13 contestant on the challenges of choosing to adopt
Actress and Bigg Boss 13 contestant Shefali Jariwala has been very vocal in the media about her desire to adopt but her husband Parag Tygai didn’t always support her decision. Talking to Bollywood Life, Jariwala said, “He could not understand my emotion for a long time. It is something that has developed in me for years. But for such a big decision, it was crucial that he and I come on the same page. My time in the Bigg Boss 13 house got him thinking about having a family.”
The actress who became known for her appearance in Kaanta Laga said, “The road to adoption is not an easy one.” She went on to explain the challenges, “There are a lot of laws in place. Authorities check every aspect from the stability of a couple's marriage to their health. It is also a lot of paper work and counselling. You have to talk to other parents. There are many who might develop cold feet at the end minute.”
Along with the challenges during the process, Jariwala also faced her family’s disproval, “It (adoption) is a very brave decision, especially in the culture we belong to. My family is still in the process of being okay. I know they'll be supportive.”
The past few months have made Jariwala certain on her decisions, “This lockdown has hampered the matter. It takes years to complete the formalities. Younger kids get adopted much faster than older ones. I would like to adopt a baby girl. Boys find homes more easily. I feel a daughter's bond with her parents is something else. I have a beautiful bond with my dad and mum. Any way, boy or girl, the child will find its way to my home and heart.”
Adoption was something that Jariwala had wanted to do before fame, “Adoption is something I wanted to do as I find the thought very beautiful. I was first introduced to it when I was 10 or 12, at a very impressionable age. I have carried it since then.” After finding fame as the “thong girl”, Jariwala was certain on her adoption plans, “I feel my story is nothing short of a fairy-tale. I came from a very simple middle class home. My life took a turn after Kaanta Laga. I feel grateful that I am so comfortable where I am. In my life, I want to give back the love and fortune that has come my way. I want to share my blessings."
Signing off her interview the actress concluded, “Adoption is not that bad. It is not a taboo. I feel there are many kids who need loving and caring homes."