Bollywood actor Katrina Kaif is not an amateur when it comes to relationships. There was a time when she was the dream girl of almost every actor in Bollywood. But the two stars that were able to woo her by their charm were Salman Khan and Ranbir Kapoor. Sad but true, both her relationships went sour too soon, brought out the worst in her and ended on a bitter note. While the soft spoken beauty often keeps mum about her love life there have been instances where she has gained the courage to speak about the betrayal she experienced in her personal relationships. As she let the cat out of the bag on various platforms such as exclusive interviews and talk shows, Kat has given her fan base and contemporaries a bevy of relationship lessons to take home.
1. Lesson 1: The world will talk. Let it!
Sallu bhai and Katrina became the most sought-after celebrity couples when they began dating. (And we won’t lie, we were drooling over their chemistry in the recently released blockbuster ‘Bharat’ too!) While everything looked picture perfect from the face of it, no one knew what happened behind closed doors. So when the starlet eventually broke off her relationship with Salman and Ranbir followed, she was accused of using the ‘Tamasha’ star as a “rebound”, while others said she left Salman for Ranbir, without a valid reason. Opening up in an interview back then, a furious Katrina said, “Who said that I ditched Salman. Salman right? The world doesn’t give a shit about stars and their problems.” Kudos to her for slamming trollers and remaining unfettered by the interference of random people until she couldn’t take it anymore!
2. Lesson 2: Don’t be with a man if he likes you for your looks!
While addressing the media in August 2014, Katrina went on a rant about the Dabangg star. Not being able to hold back her tears, she revealed one of her reasons for leaving him was because he always compared her physical features to those of other women. And the lowest blow: He would give the example of his ex-girlfriend and actor Aishwarya Rai Bachchan during every fight! “Salman wanted me to copy all his previous girlfriends. Although I am four inches taller than him he asked me to wear stilettos and look as tall as Sangeeta Bijlani. He then instructed me, yes instructed me to play women’s cricket,” revealed Katrina. “He then used to force me to wear grey contact lenses to every award ceremony and media event so that I would look like Aishwarya. He would compare my looks to hers,” she had stated at the time.
3. Lesson 3: Trust is the foundation of any relationship!
During the Signature Vogue BFFs game round, ‘Say it or Strip it’, Katrina was asked by show host and actor Neha Dhupia to name a co-star who she cannot trust with a major secret. She did not stop for a second to think and took Ranbir’s name immediately! This hinted towards the fact that trust issues with the actor could be one of the main reasons for their breakup. Wow, the couple dated for six but clearly weren’t able to work on trusting each other!
4. Lesson 4: Make him your priority but don’t centre your life on him!
A happy phase did come in Katrina and Ranbir’s life where she became too consumed in the relationship. Now, that’s a bit extreme! She started to neglect her friendships, family and work. Talking to Dhupia during the same interview, Katrina said she was “taken over by something else”. She mentioned, “There was another phase which came, which was also great and it was a phase where I think I kind of let go a bit and I was really consumed and taken over by something else in my life which was not my work.” She added, “Basically the relationship that was in my life became my focus and I was happy. I don’t say that in a regretful way. What I did in that, may be which in retrospect you learn from is I probably let a lot of things in the way working slide a bit.”
5. Lesson 5: Everything happens for a reason
Katrina earlier revealed that her split with Salman made her an over thinker and she was forced to overanalyse things. But this insecurity trickled down to her relationship with Ranbir and caused a great amount of mischief. "After my last relationship ended, I was forced to analyse many things about myself, my life and the way I was living it. Whatever was supposed to happen, happened. Everything happens for a reason." She recalled, "I remember I was getting on a plane to shoot ‘Baar Baar Dekho’ in Thailand. It was January. There was a repetitive thought going on in my head. When you get stuck on something, it's deeply disturbing. It doesn't leave you alone. It was bad. It was sad. I wondered how could something trouble you to this level?" But what doesn’t kill you makes your stronger!
Katrina is currently soaring high on the success of her recent Bollywood projects. She seems content with her personal and professional lives and has evidently come out stronger from her past relationships, both mentally and emotionally. While she resorted to fitness, yoga and meditation practices to overcome her struggles, they definitely seemed to help her for the better, something that is now evident in the superb quality work she has been producing. On a whole, there is no gainsaying that her comments during interviews have inspired us, our relationships and future goals! More power to B-town’s favourite girl!