Stringing words into sentences, through past memories, present hopes and the future realisations of a bride and groom, is no mean task, especially since it has to encapsulate the eternal love of being married. It's no wonder people find giving the wedding toast a tall order! Nevertheless, being asked to contribute your words to an occasion as special as a wedding is a huge compliment. We have found fail-safe tips to make your toast to the happy couple, as unique and special as the rest of their lives promises to be!
The before and after speech
Another creative way to make the couple feel special is to get a group of people together, who have known the couple before and after they knew each other. Then get them to recite a little story about how the bride and groom are better people post their relationship. This 'before and after' speech can be fun, heartfelt and revealing, with humour and that very special touch.
a)Get a group of people together, who have known the couple before and after they started dating
b)Make sure the people are of different age groups and have known the couple in varied phases of their lives.
c)Rehearse together at least once or twice, as having many people make a speech could lead to some confusion.
The missionary speech
The regular wedding toast is structured and filled with a little bit of everything – anecdotes, best wishes, humour and warmth. Here are a few tips. The speech's beginning, middle and ending should relate, and the entire speech as a whole should be seamless, logical and flowing. Dividing it up will make the speech easy to remember.
a) Begin with a brief introduction, about how you know the couple.
b) Include a personal story, preferably a funny one.
c) End it with best wishes to the couple and their future together. Sprinkling little tidbits about how the couple met each other and why they are perfect for one another, will add the right amount of mush. Frankly, everyone loves a tearjerker!
The literal speech
Sometimes a story or fairytale expresses the emotions and bond a couple shares, in a more romantic and creative manner than a straight-off-the-cuff speech. Mix fact with fiction to make for a fun narrative. A poem, perhaps by the bride and groom's favourite poet, or even lyricist, could make for heartfelt words.
a) Find out the couple's favourite song, band or lyricist and recite a few words from one of their works.
b) If a poem is too short, then recite a story, blending facts with fiction to make for a creative and embellished fairytale inspired by the couples' love story.
c) Come up with a poem of your own to express how you feel about the couple and their unique relationship.
The did you know speech
Traditional speeches don't work for everyone. If getting naughty is more to your liking, then this option is for you! A fun way to get the groom/bride acquainted with his/her better half's quirky, scandalous stories is to make a list of 'did you know' nuggets that will have everyone in splits. All the information doesn't have to be from your personal experiences with the bride or groom. Doing a little bit of research by talking to their friends and relatives who may have a snippet or two to share, will make the stories varied and add dimension and chronology to the bride and groom's life.
a) Keep it short and sweet. Even the best of stories can get boring if they are drag on for too long.
b) Speak to people who have known the bride and groom at various points in their lives. That way the 'did you know' list will be comprehensive.
c) Make sure the stories are innocent and not too scandalous!
Our favourite Wedding quotes from the TV and the movies:
"His hello was the end of her endings Her laugh was their first step down the aisle His hand would be hers to hold forever His forever was as simple as her smile He said she was what was missing She said instantly she knew She was a question to be answered And his answer was "I do." Sex and the City, Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker)
"When you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." When Harry Met Sally, Harry Burns (Billy Crystal)
"There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for,and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same – only love." Don Juan DeMarco, Don Juan DeMarco (Johnny Depp)
"This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime." The Bridges of Madison County, Robert Kincaid (Clint Eastwood)